Another week has gone, the worlds burning down around us, and I can't help but feel calm in this midst of this chaos. I don't know why this the most level-headed and secure I've ever felt in my entire life, but it is, and it feels significant. Well, at least relevant enough to make my way into my office and write. A past time of mine, I look forward to and dread simultaneously. Yet, here I am, giving my weekly blog goal some attention.
I know, I know, you're ready for me to get to my curated list of "how too's" for chaos control. But the truth is, I don't have a telepathic connection to some crazy Life Force that provides answers. Although the right amount of plant-based medicine and some exercise will have you feeling differently. No, I have a neurotic way of inserting myself into situations and a deep love for people and their stories. I've found that when I heal what's chaotic within me, I can spot the chaos in people around me a little easier. I like to think there are people out there who are further along in their healing that do the same for me. It makes it easier to accept how messed up things can actually be. That deep love for "messy people" lead me straight to my passion and my purpose. It is flowing through every one of my current projects and relationships. It is what makes life a lot more authentic and enjoyable despite the chaos.
Helping me navigate this is the Founder of Forward Partners and a darn good man, Chad Wright. Chad has asked the tough questions while never judging my inexperience or fears and gave me space to find out what rang true for me. I shudder at the thought of our coaching coming to an end. Without this coaching, my life would not be as intentional as I am living it. But as I've learned through my experience with Forward Partners and the "homework" assigned, it's that timing, and the trusting of it is imperative. I'm trusting that our paths will cross again when my sessions end. Having someone partner with you on your visions is priceless, and I cannot say enough good things. It's like therapy with a plan!
Other things that have helped me combat the chaos are work, the conversations Leanne and I are having over on Have The Convo, (They are literal soul food, and I cannot get enough), and spending time investing in my home and myself. Radical amounts of self-care, for all of us, is imperative right now.
Here's my list:
Time in the water. Pool, sprinkler, water gun, bathtub, ocean, lake, spilling a drink on your shirt. Okay, maybe not that last one, but water in all forms should be consumed.
Time alone. Whatever it is you feel like doing with no one else around, do that. It's necessary and nourishes your purpose.
Connection. A chat with a friend, a snuggle on the couch with someone you love, a business meeting, gripe sessions with your friends, a healing conversation with family members, a second gripe session after the family meeting, or whatever it is you need to connect with another human being. We need it now more than ever, and Leanne and I are holding space if you ever want to join us.
Music. Consume it in all forms, always.
Focused Time. Time explicitly focused on the tasks that you need to accomplish. Your "office hours" if you will. I've mentioned it what feels like a million times, but if you struggle in this area, Indistractible by Nir Eyal is a great place to start.
And last, but certainly not least, BE NICE TO YOURSELF. 🙂
No matter how many great people you know or how dedicated you are, chaotic days will happen. People will say or do some nonsense, and it will have you falling into unhealthy patterns and behaviors quicker than the coronavirus spreads. Remember that on certain days, you will be the person bringing the madness. A good helping of kindness to yourself will help you extend it back to others on their difficult days, and hopefully, they will be a little more understanding with you in your not so good moments.