What do you do when you've made so much progress but still find yourself falling into old habits and routines? I swear, I thought I had life figured out last week, what happened?
I woke up earlier than usual this morning and immediately felt the weight of my thoughts.
I'll be honest this Thanksgiving Break wore me down. I tried to show up, be present, and live with intention in my interactions with others and myself, but I fell short. My expectations got the better of me again.
The good thing about this awareness is that I can start to fix or accept it. The bad news is, I HAVE SO MANY FEELINGS.
I like to turn to Psychology books, or Eckhart Tolle and Shakespear in times like this to gain some deeper understanding, but this morning, it was Thomas Merton's: No Man Is An Island that rocked my world and set me straight.
"The Beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves, and not to twist them to fit our own image. Otherwise, we love only the reflection of ourselves we find in them."
If you are starting your week feeling unheard, judged, blamed, unimportant, or disrespected - know that those are just triggers, reminding you that you are on the other side of growth. Those things have nothing to do with where you are going and can be asked to leave as quickly as they arrived with a little bit of LOVE. (and time, and patience, and... and...)
Being human is a lot of work on its own, but adding in interpersonal relationships, feelings, trauma, etc. can get rapidly overwhelming - plug into your source. Do things you love, work towards your goals, and you'll be amazed at how quickly the weight of your feelings will switch to align with your purpose.
I've added a few of my favorite quotes on "Expectations" if you need some extra reinforcement:
"Expectation feeds frustration. It is an unhealthy attachment to people, things, and outcomes we wish we could control, but don't." - Dr. Steve Maraboli
"Expectation is the root of all heartache" - Shakespear
"Expect Nothing, Appreciate Everything" - Unknown
"Expectations are resentments waiting to happen" - Brene Brown
"The primary cause of unhappiness is never the situation, but your thoughts about it." - Eckhart Tolle