Put your blame and judgement away.

Updated: Dec 10, 2019





Some mornings, I shoot out of bed, make my coffee and jump straight into work. The flow is good, the coffee is the right temperature and I just can’t help but feel like I am crushing it. Other mornings, not so much. Today was one of those mornings. So, I opted to give myself some senseless self-care in the form of “Real Housewives of Orange County”.

That’s right, I am a forever-watching Bravo, girl and I will ride the Andy Cohen train until it stops.

But OMG, the blame and the judgment coming from these speakers. I quit about eighteen minutes in because I just couldn’t take it anymore.

Do you know why it stands out so much to me? Because I’ve done a lot of blaming and judging of my own.

Do you know what walking around with all that blame and judgment does?

It leaves you angry. It leads to things “never working out” or “not enough time”. Throw in some resentment and bitterness - well, you can’t help but look like you took a bite out of a sour lemon all the damn time.

Well, my lemonade stand is open for business - NO MORE BLAME AND JUDGEMENT (okay, that's not reasonable, we’re human.) But this young entrepreneur is going to take those sour lemons and try her best to see the human in people and make some tasty lemonade. I want to work hard and I want you to work hard for the things that make you, YOU. All that other stuff that happened or is currently happening to you - is for you.

It’s there to say, “NOPE!! STEER CLEAR!” or a resounding “HELL YESSSS!!!”

But if you are still angry or judging someone/something because of something else, you won’t be able to receive the message.

Put your blame and judgment away. You don’t need it. You are not the same person you were yesterday. Like the Housewives, it’s a new season, baby! Whatever your Real Housewives storyline would be, know that you are in control. Control of what you do and how you react. You control the way your mouth moves too. I suggest an upward motion with a slight curve.




Calla is a writer, mother of three, and host of Have The Conversation Podcast.  Her blog, art, and conversations are here for you as living proof that mistakes and the lessons they provide are all part of a bigger picture   Reach out! - She'd love to get to know you.

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